The adventure of connection is to
speak out. . .
The
feeling of connection we yearn for with our partner comes when we speak what is
on our mind; we have to stop guessing what each other feels and stop guarding
against all offenses. A relationship with vitality is not so guarded that we
constantly have to avoid rubbing each other the wrong way. We expect offenses
and misunderstandings occasionally.
The
greatest offense we can commit in an intimate relationship is dishonesty.
Perhaps when we speak to our partner we will not express what we really mean on
our first try. Or we will not realize how our partner feels about what we say
until he or she tells us. In vibrant and living relationships people agree that
they will keep talking when someone feels hurt, misunderstands, or disagrees.
The adventure of connection is to speak our thoughts and feelings in their
complete form, and then continue to talk until they become clear and
understood.
Tell
your mate something you have been guarding in your mind.
You are reading
from the book:

The More We Find In Each Other
by Merle Fossum and Mavis Fossum